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Safety - BDSM |
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Aside from the general advice related to Safer Sex,
BDSM sessions often require a much wider array of
safety precautions than typical Vanilla Sex (sexual
behavior without BDSM elements). To keep all acts
within the framework agreed upon by all participants,
a commonly accepted set of rules and safety measures
has emerged within the BDSM community.
To ensure consensus related to BDSM activity, pre-play
negotiations are commonplace, especially among partners
who do not know each other very well. These negotiations
concern the interests and fantasies of each partner
and establish a framework.
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This kind of discussion
is a typical "unique selling proposition"
of BDSM sessions and quite commonplace. Additionally,
safewords are often arranged to provide for an immediate
stop of any activity if any participant should so desire.
Quick and reliable response to safewords is an imperative
for safe BDSM. In case of voice constraints of the bottom,
eye contact or hand signs might be the only means of
communication and are therefore of very high importance
for safety. reed
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Dominance and Submision |
| "Dominance
and submission" (also known as D&s, Ds or D/s)
is a set of behaviors, customs and rituals relating
to the giving and accepting of dominance of one individual
over another in an erotic or lifestyle context. It explores
the more mental aspect of BDSM. This is also the case
in many relationships not considering themselves as
sadomasochistic; it is considered to be a part of BDSM
if it is practiced cognizantly. The range of its individual
characteristics is thereby wide. |
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Examples of mentally
orientated practices are education games, during which
the dominant requires certain forms of behavior from
the submissive. Special forms include erotic roleplay
like ageplay, in which a difference in age, either real
or enacted, formulates the background; or petplay. reed
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Top, Bootoms and Switch |
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In BDSM
terminology the partner who has the active, i.e. controlling
role in a session or in the entire relationship is described
as "Top", a role that often involves inflicting
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The partner referred
to as "Bottom" or more frequently as Sub,
exposes him- or herself voluntarily to those actions
during the session and/or is the passive partner in
the connection. Although the Top habitually is the dominant
and the Bottom the submissive partner, it is not inevitably.
In some cases the Top follows instructions, i.e. he
"tops" the Bottom according to the Bottom's
desires and in a way the Bottom expressly requires.
A Top only having apparent control, while he in reality
is conforming the instructions given by the Bottom,
is labeled Service Top. reed
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Professional Services |
| A professional dominatrix
or professional dominant, often referred to within the
culture as a "pro-domme", offers services
encompassing the range of bondage, discipline, and dominance
in exchange for money. Many dominatrices do not see
themselves as prostitutes, since sexual intercourse
between dominatrix and client usually is out of the
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However, in some cases, the sexual
gratification or climax of the client may be permitted
by other means. The term "Dominatrix" is little-used
within the non-professional BDSM scene. A non-professional
dominant woman is more commonly referred to as a "Domme"
or "Femdom". Dommes may title themselves as
"Lady", "Mistress" or "Madame",
and require their submissives to address them in this
fashion, to emphasize the shift of power. reed
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